Has been important for me to cover some ground which actually for me was also personal, as shared more than usual when deemed relevant in terms of breached boundaries. Here again is discussion day! And yes, goal is still for that to at some point involve other than me noting is a freer day for me to ramble.
And was HUGE for me to post that--authority relative to one entity is when some other entity has information needed. So huge actually went to the post to copy that out to make sure got it right.
While recently considering boundaries of success, which was previous post so no need to link to it, can be about--a right to personal space we all should have.
Where find it interesting at least to me can have these long posts which are about things can put into an incomplete sentence.
Those are simply, abstractions.
And abstracting things is a concept have been thinking about, as a meta topic, as abstracting abstraction is very meta, as in self-referential.
With greater authority to pursue my interests with a better sense on boundaries of success feel more confident will not only be successful, but will like myself more while so being.
Which is the plan. Ideals are also abstractions. And pursuing ideals am sure is best to have them, even if can struggle to achieve them, than to not have any at all.
Feel like is important to believe in things, you know? Not going to chatter so much beyond there I think.
James
Friday, October 27, 2017
Wednesday, October 25, 2017
Boundaries of success?
Do find myself focusing on boundaries, and a right to personal space we all should have. Looking for a concept that gives some guidance in trying to understand success. That maybe it is not really just about appearance of being successful, but finding your safe space, with people around you protected in their own, and protective of yours.
To me at least as a concept seems worthy. Where readily admit is something would like to have where put it out there as a concept thinking is something where others agree.
Past focus was possibly more on systems where people have expected roles around things like gender, and in other areas where thankfully in our times is greatly diminished. Where fewer accept for instance the notion that some people are just born into a lower class which is just their fate.
Merit should matter and what you can do with your efforts can elevate not just you but your society, is a better idea taking hold of a world and nations, when nations actually wish to compete well on the global stage.
You cannot compete well in our modern world with a country finding best efforts from ALL its citizens if you are arbitrarily restricting some of yours. Your country just will not be as competitive as the best.
Gender equality is better. And feel like society is trending towards meaningful and real gender equality where we know it still isn't here yet from too many unfortunate stories and statistics about things like the gender wage gap. Social roles are adjusting.
Views that still dominated when I grew up are outdated in a world where either gender can work together equally to support a family, if a couple wishes to have one. And gender can be irrelevant as to how that works out. Of course women still have the children, but families take care of them. And best society simply supports children brought up well and protected. As someone who has admitted suffering abuse as a child better appreciate how important that is.
And people who have been through such, and most survive though unfortunately some tragically do not, can find a way am sure. And as work towards a better safety, feel like am in that way working towards real success.
Other things then can simply challenge it, like money and celebrity that could draw more of the kind of people who can test boundaries.
We have a world of systems which actually work very well in plenty of places and others struggle more, where can be a question of what is most important, as to how to judge what is success.
We can't help but care in some way what others think about us. If that seems challenging consider what happens if you decide against cultural mores in some area public. Police may be called. Even better to imagine a situation where you have seen such, which is likely if lived in a major city.
Find myself thinking about shaving as an activity shared across genders in the US. And looked forward to it when young, as a sign of maturity. And after decades of shaving or not, if wanted a beard like to pay attention to how I feel about the hair that will relentlessly grow. For women here have learned is primarily about legs and armpits which did not think about much until recently. Does that show how single have been most of my life?
Other side of it is, don't think I'd care in a relationship and thinking back can't remember one way or the other on relationships have had, but is that about just taking something for granted?
Part of me wonders about boundaries of the subject in this context. Is it appropriate? Was talking about success and systems and suddenly am talking shaving and relationships and opinion about whether or not I care if women shave their legs?
Where do we find the lines in life, especially with what is put forward to others publicly? I think it is about a sense which says will leave the above. As otherwise the words would simply have been removed like so many others in the process of writing.
As random as may seem highlights to me reality of things done primarily for others, and brings to my mind questions about to what extent how we feel about ourselves is about our success in how we feel others perceive us.
Having your attention though if still reading, there is that concern that in keeping your attention might use that interest or attempt to use in some way not helpful.
There has been much revealed recently also especially about abuse of power, where reality is tend to be males who try to leverage some position to breach accepted boundaries. And to me really IS about boundaries, respecting the space of other people. And more that is accepted, less likely people are to cross lines.
Personal space is very personal, and the signals we send should be accepted by others. Reading through so many stories recently jumps out how appropriate boundary signals were relentlessly ignored by predatory people. To such people personal boundaries were made to be crossed and would simply relentlessly test and breach, and even rely on physical force. Then look to legal means to silence victims and escape accountability.
With the need to provide things of interest to others, our monetary systems can also push people to find what is of value to others, and with best professionalism, can give tremendous satisfaction in doing your best, if properly paid. Where the pressure has long been on you to figure that one out, or at least be with people who do their best to pay appropriately.
But how do you know? Thankfully in our times, there is the ability to share pay information through the web widely and to check. Talking pay is helpful for a world of people to be properly paid.
There are just going to be situations in life when you need someone who is approving in some way of what you are doing, which can give a certain power in and of itself, to say, yes or no. Especially if you want to get paid at something.
Gatekeepers I like to call them. Admit do not like to face them. Classic is the job interview. In entertainment is the audition. But gist of it is lots of places there are people who will decide whether they need you for some occupation or not.
And what if that gatekeeper pushes requirements that have nothing to do with value you can bring in the broad, but is all about some monstrous person selfishly looking to use you in that moment?
Problem with attracting attention can be is not picky. Is best when you attract decent people, but nothing in the word has that filter.
You can actually simply attract all kinds which I think will be for the most part people who at least try to be decent.
Public reality at least pressures us to behave a certain way or society will tend to control our behavior for us, as best can. Disruptions to others can NOT be accepted if society is to function well, and especially doing harm to others with impunity is just not justified. Can be more problematic if not in public though, if somehow cornered by the wrong person, looking to get away with something.
Finding your boundaries in life is a lot not just about knowing your personal space, but defending well. No matter though you may find yourself cornered or trapped by a villain. Our best efforts can only defend so much, and do need society defending well too. And respecting boundaries is a lot about society functioning best.
The measures of success will am sure always be much about many things, but am sure there is a greatness to finding your space with people who respect, whom you respect to enjoy those other things.
Maybe simply am talking about success from finding peace of mind. Which is a measure of success known from wisdom from way back. Find that comforting to consider.
Boundaries of success are ours to find. Focusing on defining those boundaries to me? Is key.
James Harris
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Want your own copy? Then can click here to get a PDF from my public Google Drive.
To me at least as a concept seems worthy. Where readily admit is something would like to have where put it out there as a concept thinking is something where others agree.
Past focus was possibly more on systems where people have expected roles around things like gender, and in other areas where thankfully in our times is greatly diminished. Where fewer accept for instance the notion that some people are just born into a lower class which is just their fate.
Merit should matter and what you can do with your efforts can elevate not just you but your society, is a better idea taking hold of a world and nations, when nations actually wish to compete well on the global stage.
You cannot compete well in our modern world with a country finding best efforts from ALL its citizens if you are arbitrarily restricting some of yours. Your country just will not be as competitive as the best.
Gender equality is better. And feel like society is trending towards meaningful and real gender equality where we know it still isn't here yet from too many unfortunate stories and statistics about things like the gender wage gap. Social roles are adjusting.
Views that still dominated when I grew up are outdated in a world where either gender can work together equally to support a family, if a couple wishes to have one. And gender can be irrelevant as to how that works out. Of course women still have the children, but families take care of them. And best society simply supports children brought up well and protected. As someone who has admitted suffering abuse as a child better appreciate how important that is.
And people who have been through such, and most survive though unfortunately some tragically do not, can find a way am sure. And as work towards a better safety, feel like am in that way working towards real success.
Other things then can simply challenge it, like money and celebrity that could draw more of the kind of people who can test boundaries.
We have a world of systems which actually work very well in plenty of places and others struggle more, where can be a question of what is most important, as to how to judge what is success.
We can't help but care in some way what others think about us. If that seems challenging consider what happens if you decide against cultural mores in some area public. Police may be called. Even better to imagine a situation where you have seen such, which is likely if lived in a major city.
Find myself thinking about shaving as an activity shared across genders in the US. And looked forward to it when young, as a sign of maturity. And after decades of shaving or not, if wanted a beard like to pay attention to how I feel about the hair that will relentlessly grow. For women here have learned is primarily about legs and armpits which did not think about much until recently. Does that show how single have been most of my life?
Other side of it is, don't think I'd care in a relationship and thinking back can't remember one way or the other on relationships have had, but is that about just taking something for granted?
Part of me wonders about boundaries of the subject in this context. Is it appropriate? Was talking about success and systems and suddenly am talking shaving and relationships and opinion about whether or not I care if women shave their legs?
Where do we find the lines in life, especially with what is put forward to others publicly? I think it is about a sense which says will leave the above. As otherwise the words would simply have been removed like so many others in the process of writing.
As random as may seem highlights to me reality of things done primarily for others, and brings to my mind questions about to what extent how we feel about ourselves is about our success in how we feel others perceive us.
Having your attention though if still reading, there is that concern that in keeping your attention might use that interest or attempt to use in some way not helpful.
There has been much revealed recently also especially about abuse of power, where reality is tend to be males who try to leverage some position to breach accepted boundaries. And to me really IS about boundaries, respecting the space of other people. And more that is accepted, less likely people are to cross lines.
Personal space is very personal, and the signals we send should be accepted by others. Reading through so many stories recently jumps out how appropriate boundary signals were relentlessly ignored by predatory people. To such people personal boundaries were made to be crossed and would simply relentlessly test and breach, and even rely on physical force. Then look to legal means to silence victims and escape accountability.
With the need to provide things of interest to others, our monetary systems can also push people to find what is of value to others, and with best professionalism, can give tremendous satisfaction in doing your best, if properly paid. Where the pressure has long been on you to figure that one out, or at least be with people who do their best to pay appropriately.
But how do you know? Thankfully in our times, there is the ability to share pay information through the web widely and to check. Talking pay is helpful for a world of people to be properly paid.
There are just going to be situations in life when you need someone who is approving in some way of what you are doing, which can give a certain power in and of itself, to say, yes or no. Especially if you want to get paid at something.
Gatekeepers I like to call them. Admit do not like to face them. Classic is the job interview. In entertainment is the audition. But gist of it is lots of places there are people who will decide whether they need you for some occupation or not.
And what if that gatekeeper pushes requirements that have nothing to do with value you can bring in the broad, but is all about some monstrous person selfishly looking to use you in that moment?
Problem with attracting attention can be is not picky. Is best when you attract decent people, but nothing in the word has that filter.
You can actually simply attract all kinds which I think will be for the most part people who at least try to be decent.
Public reality at least pressures us to behave a certain way or society will tend to control our behavior for us, as best can. Disruptions to others can NOT be accepted if society is to function well, and especially doing harm to others with impunity is just not justified. Can be more problematic if not in public though, if somehow cornered by the wrong person, looking to get away with something.
Finding your boundaries in life is a lot not just about knowing your personal space, but defending well. No matter though you may find yourself cornered or trapped by a villain. Our best efforts can only defend so much, and do need society defending well too. And respecting boundaries is a lot about society functioning best.
The measures of success will am sure always be much about many things, but am sure there is a greatness to finding your space with people who respect, whom you respect to enjoy those other things.
Maybe simply am talking about success from finding peace of mind. Which is a measure of success known from wisdom from way back. Find that comforting to consider.
Boundaries of success are ours to find. Focusing on defining those boundaries to me? Is key.
James Harris
------------------------
Want your own copy? Then can click here to get a PDF from my public Google Drive.
Sunday, October 22, 2017
Thinking about what is success
Much pondering and recent events where posted on discussion day regarding have me accepting that there is more personal to the pause here than just the legal framework or worrying about business processes.
This blog has drawn interest from at least 50 countries according to web analytics at one point, where posted about it, without much promotion from me, and while have been trying to figure out its structure. At those levels yeah, if realized into a full commercial enterprise there are business realities where for me is decided will have a very high standard, for personal as well as professional reasons.
Certain types of success just aren't worth it to me to even have an inkling of that direction. And feel better with the web ushering a better way I think, where is harder for certain types of unsavory people to hide.
Also seems like a topic for Wednesday, as am thinking quite simply on: what price success?
Should there even be one? Where I think usually that question is about something negative. Can a person share at their best, without taking it for granted must be wary of having some of the worst work hardest to get close to you?
The money side is where things can get very scary, very nasty, and creepy and I could go on. So a personal pause along with pragmatic concerns is ok with me. And facing it may be able to answer, in my own way, best I can with a post that puts my opinion out there.
Now time to ponder more.
This blog has drawn interest from at least 50 countries according to web analytics at one point, where posted about it, without much promotion from me, and while have been trying to figure out its structure. At those levels yeah, if realized into a full commercial enterprise there are business realities where for me is decided will have a very high standard, for personal as well as professional reasons.
Certain types of success just aren't worth it to me to even have an inkling of that direction. And feel better with the web ushering a better way I think, where is harder for certain types of unsavory people to hide.
Also seems like a topic for Wednesday, as am thinking quite simply on: what price success?
Should there even be one? Where I think usually that question is about something negative. Can a person share at their best, without taking it for granted must be wary of having some of the worst work hardest to get close to you?
The money side is where things can get very scary, very nasty, and creepy and I could go on. So a personal pause along with pragmatic concerns is ok with me. And facing it may be able to answer, in my own way, best I can with a post that puts my opinion out there.
Now time to ponder more.
Friday, October 20, 2017
Talking about sexual predation helps prevention
Have addressed issue of sexual abuse noting in a post that I went through at age of 5 and talked from a young age. Reading the post again will add I told a therapist who was counseling our family, with counseling started before my parents divorced. So was 12 do remember back in 1982, where my Mom was taking advantage of affordable counseling remarkably thanks to Tift County community services providing them.
With a freer day to talk anything as Friday is supposed to be a discussion day, thought should bring up, with a terrible story of a sexual predator in the American entertainment industry over which there has been so much news. And with many others thankfully sharing their stories, which am certain is helpful for victims of sexual predation and helps prevent further.
So if you are in a situation with a person trying to abuse you, not only realize there is no doubt, but can maybe escape with as little harm as possible, and armed with the confidence and certitude to contact appropriate authorities. And also with such big news maybe appropriate authorities will also be more likely to handle appropriately with proper professionalism.
Other side of it here, is reminds me of why to be careful, and yeah, is a business risk involved too which I dread when considering the idea of commercial and referring people to some business entity, which have not done here yet. Still working on that as noted, but at least with this story with a prominent person before a rapid downfall in the entertainment industry can consider that abstract view of how it matters to you to avoid working with such a person.
Like readily admit, thankful for my policy of not naming people or organizations on this blog in general as part of its commercial position. And to explain that again, to not worry about potential of looking like promoting unless actually am when that would be disclosed just try not to use names for people or organizations which actually is usually a relief. Still is.
But that means can look like am throwing shade is the term, when will simply note that in looking at organizations involved with the outed sexual predator cannot help but wonder, what due diligence they did, especially newer ones? I'd heard rumors about this person and am not in the entertainment industry. What process makes an organization risk its own reputation in a world where these stories can start bringing justice against a perpetrator at any time? And regardless why be involved with such a person anyway?
Questions that can help define policy that prefers to be careful, and no, profit would never be a motive for me, nor an excuse. Will link yet again here, to a post made nearly two weeks ago on my G+ account from which have the following as my guideline:
Sharing at your best should not put you at the mercy of some of the worst among us, is something I like to believe. And consider as an effort to enforce a policy that maybe will matter at least for me.
(Update July 28, 2019: Removed link to now gone Google+ account mentioned. Quoted portion luckily stands on its own.)
Respecting boundaries was what focused on with my post here. I do think about that often and what it means.
James
With a freer day to talk anything as Friday is supposed to be a discussion day, thought should bring up, with a terrible story of a sexual predator in the American entertainment industry over which there has been so much news. And with many others thankfully sharing their stories, which am certain is helpful for victims of sexual predation and helps prevent further.
So if you are in a situation with a person trying to abuse you, not only realize there is no doubt, but can maybe escape with as little harm as possible, and armed with the confidence and certitude to contact appropriate authorities. And also with such big news maybe appropriate authorities will also be more likely to handle appropriately with proper professionalism.
Other side of it here, is reminds me of why to be careful, and yeah, is a business risk involved too which I dread when considering the idea of commercial and referring people to some business entity, which have not done here yet. Still working on that as noted, but at least with this story with a prominent person before a rapid downfall in the entertainment industry can consider that abstract view of how it matters to you to avoid working with such a person.
Like readily admit, thankful for my policy of not naming people or organizations on this blog in general as part of its commercial position. And to explain that again, to not worry about potential of looking like promoting unless actually am when that would be disclosed just try not to use names for people or organizations which actually is usually a relief. Still is.
But that means can look like am throwing shade is the term, when will simply note that in looking at organizations involved with the outed sexual predator cannot help but wonder, what due diligence they did, especially newer ones? I'd heard rumors about this person and am not in the entertainment industry. What process makes an organization risk its own reputation in a world where these stories can start bringing justice against a perpetrator at any time? And regardless why be involved with such a person anyway?
Questions that can help define policy that prefers to be careful, and no, profit would never be a motive for me, nor an excuse. Will link yet again here, to a post made nearly two weeks ago on my G+ account from which have the following as my guideline:
Sharing at your best should not put you at the mercy of some of the worst among us, is something I like to believe. And consider as an effort to enforce a policy that maybe will matter at least for me.
(Update July 28, 2019: Removed link to now gone Google+ account mentioned. Quoted portion luckily stands on its own.)
Respecting boundaries was what focused on with my post here. I do think about that often and what it means.
James
Sunday, October 1, 2017
Explaining impasse
Things actually went well with the blog for all the things familiar to me. And went better than expected actually which I discussed. Then getting to the totally new things realized some problems which control the current impasse.
Big one is a legal framework. That has to do with the actual structure of any contracts which would fit around my concept of great referral. Things controlling posts, like either side could have removed at any time. And I'd limit revenue to six months maximum with limited upfront and fees based on realized benefit. Creative and innovative things that take lawyers to hash out, and then would also be experimental. Would they work?
But beyond that, who would I actually consider?
Might seem weird I guess, but have been scanning business entities for months, and maybe one or two are at a level and standard far as I am concerned where might consider them, if they were interested.
Lot of the problem there is business needs to be able to operate in around 50 countries, or here is actually too much reach. And also promotion here should be potentially static, with a post that can be here indefinitely is my goal, even if there would be no revenue to me as a business entity after six months.
Other thing is, as I've been scanning the world of modern business, am looking at a world in flux. There are more companies with necessary prestige, but I see them struggling to transition, in my opinion to our digital reality. And most are social media neophytes, still struggling with the basics.
My own inclination if had not forced myself into a situation to figure it out, as I do that to myself at times, knowing how I think, would be to defer for another year. Which would mean going back to doing scheduled posts, which had planned on doing, until I guess an executive decision was made.
So instead am explaining. Needing to pressure myself to solve problems outside of my comfort zone.
Big one is a legal framework. That has to do with the actual structure of any contracts which would fit around my concept of great referral. Things controlling posts, like either side could have removed at any time. And I'd limit revenue to six months maximum with limited upfront and fees based on realized benefit. Creative and innovative things that take lawyers to hash out, and then would also be experimental. Would they work?
But beyond that, who would I actually consider?
Might seem weird I guess, but have been scanning business entities for months, and maybe one or two are at a level and standard far as I am concerned where might consider them, if they were interested.
Lot of the problem there is business needs to be able to operate in around 50 countries, or here is actually too much reach. And also promotion here should be potentially static, with a post that can be here indefinitely is my goal, even if there would be no revenue to me as a business entity after six months.
Other thing is, as I've been scanning the world of modern business, am looking at a world in flux. There are more companies with necessary prestige, but I see them struggling to transition, in my opinion to our digital reality. And most are social media neophytes, still struggling with the basics.
My own inclination if had not forced myself into a situation to figure it out, as I do that to myself at times, knowing how I think, would be to defer for another year. Which would mean going back to doing scheduled posts, which had planned on doing, until I guess an executive decision was made.
So instead am explaining. Needing to pressure myself to solve problems outside of my comfort zone.
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